PolyCat Archive

Archive of Catya Belfer’s poly resource at polycat.org

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I started writing the pages you see here way back in 1997. This may be the oldest continuously-updated Web site on polyamory on the net! Find out more about the history of More Than Two here!


Welcome! This section of More Than Two is an archive of the most popular pages from polycat.org. That version of Cat’s site went live in 2006 with articles about polyamory, communication, jealousy, and other topics related to poly relationships. Cat has decided to stop maintaining the site, and is happy to have the best content archived here. You can find her on the Web at www.catya.org. Unless otherwise noted, the content in this section is written by and is © Catya Belfer.

Intro to PolyamoryIf you’re brand new to the concept of polyamory, start with polyamory basics

Falling in LoveOpening the Can of Worms

Negotiating Safer SexSome practical guidelines for sexual health and STI awareness

Partner ProblemsWhat to do when your partners don’t get along

Talking About DetailsWhen, where, why, and how much