How does it work? Is it a gigantic sexual free-for-all?
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Okay, let’s talk about sex.
I went for years without specifically writing about sex in polyamorous relationships, I’ve talked about the focus in polyamory on multiple romantic relationships, I’ve even talked about how asexual people can be and often are polyamorous, but I still get tons of questions about sex. So, sex.
At last! So what’s the deal? Do you have to be a kinky orgy-loving sex gargoyle to be polyamorous?
(Points silently to “asexual people can be and often are polyamorous” above.)
Seriously, no. No, you don’t have to be kinky to be polyamorous, though yes, there’s a lot of overlap between kink and polyamory. No, you don’t have to be into group sex, like, at all—plenty of polyamorous people aren’t the least bit interested in, and have never had, group sex. No, you don’t even have to have a particularly strong sex drive.
Nor do you have to be bisexual to be polyamorous (I would’ve thought this is obvious, but people have asked), or into casual sex (in fact, if casual sex is your bag, there are much easier ways to find it than by maintaining multiple long-term romantic relationships!).
Of course, you can be a kinky orgy-loving bisexual sex gargoyle and be polyamorous if you want to be—if that’s you, get down with your bad self. But polyamory doesn’t require it.
So, if you want to know more about sex and polyamory, check it out:
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