Hierarchical Poly

Hints and tips about hierarchical styles of polyamory

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Poly relationships come in a wide range of shapes and sizes. Some relationships are tightly bounded; others are networks. Some people feel that imposing a hierarchy on their relationships is helpful; others don’t. In this section, you’ll find specific advice on primary/secondary relationships and hierarchical poly.

Dating a Couple Tips and advice for dating a couple

Secondary’s GuideSuccessful secondary relationships

Secondary CareCare and feeding of polyamorous secondary relationships