Jealousy and Insecurity

Issues dealing with self-worth, security, and handling the gremlins of jealousy

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In this part of the site, you’ll find essays on dealing with issues of jealousy, insecurity, and other gremlins in a polyamorous relationship. Here you’ll find practical, hands-on advice for dealing with the green-eyed monster and building a sense of self that is strong and secure.

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Jealousy: TheoryThe theory of jealousy management

Jealousy: PracticeThe practice of jealousy management

Becoming SecureOn how to become a secure person

When Your Partner Tries Something NewDealing with barriers that aren’t there for others

FavoritesOn puppies and loving more than one person