Poly/Mono Relationships

Relationships between polyamorous people and monogamous people

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Sometimes, monogamous people and polyamorous people fall in love. When that happens, it can be a bit tricky to navigate relationships where the people involved don’t necessarily want the same thing. This section contains essays and ideas helpful for mixed poly/mono relationships.

Poly for MonosMaking relationships work when you’re monogamous and your partner isn’t

Mono ResponseA monogamous perspective: A monogamous writer responds to polyamory

Poly/Mono DialogA dialog between a polyamourous and a monogamous person

Bridging the DivideWhat your monogamous partner wants you to know

I've Fallen...Monogamous people in a poly relationship