On selfishness

“You’re selfish.” I’ve heard that charge from people on the Internet, usually folks who read one of my blog posts and say, “You have five girlfriends? That’s so selfish! You’re hogging all the women for yourself.” “You’re selfish.” Lately, I’ve been hearing it from an...

The cost of being in the poly closet

A lot of folks have compared being polyamorous today to being gay several decades ago, before the GLBTQ+ movement became a major civil rights campaign. The comparison is apt in some ways; for example, there is still little social acceptance of polyamory. It’s also...

Ethical agreements

Polyamorous relationships come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes, with all sorts of configurations, arrangements and agreements. From closed triads to sprawling networks, from tightly nested live-in relationships to aggregations of long-distance relationships,...

Caption contest winner!

AAAAND the caption contest winner is… Edward Martin! For this gem: For his caption, which won by a landslide (you know you guys are sick bastards, right?), Edward will receive a copy of The Polyamorists Next Door. But we have an honorable mention: One with...

Why polyamory isn’t more evolved

If you venture into the organized polyamory community for long enough, or even talk to people about polyamory online for long enough, eventually you’re bound to encounter someone who describes polyamory as the Next Stage In Human Evolution…assuming you...

Caption this!

CAPTION CONTEST! We’re giving out a signed first edition of Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s forthcoming book The Polyamorists Next Door–normally one of the $500 perks of our crowdfunding campaign–to the More Than Two backer who writes the best caption for this...

Round peg, meet square hole

Polyamory writer and activist Louisa Leontiades has published a piece on the Huffington Post called The Hell of Monogamy. In it, she describes her own experiences trying to force herself to fit a model of relationship that wasn’t a good match for her. This...