A pigeon in a hole

A few years back, my partner Eve Rickert and I wrote a book. You may, if you’re reading this blog, have heard of it. It’s about polyamory, and it’s called More Than Two. In the book, we said, “We’re not experts on polyamory. We believe there are no experts. Polyamory...

Sometimes, you gotta just burn it all down

Last year, Eve and I started working on a new book, Love More, Be Awesome. It’s a followup to More Than Two, intended for a wider audience than just poly folks. We have an ambitious goal: Love More, Be Awesome is intended to be a user’s manual for being a...

On the path to a new book

Eve and I are back in the woods again, in the same cabin where we wrote More Than Two, working on a new book. The new book is not about polyamory. It’s called Love More, Be Awesome, and it’s our take on a kind of user’s guide for being a human being:...

Some thoughts on finding love

As we bid goodbye to 2015 (and good riddance, too; it was a tumultuous year) and stand at the doorway to 2016, I find myself thinking about what makes good relationships. Someone recently asked the question, “What is the difference between a person who finds love...

Book tour and another book tour!

My new book The Game Changer: A Memoir of Disruptive Love is about to come out! It officially publishes September 23 (here’s where you can pre-order it). I’m be doing a 10-city book tour on the West Coast of the United States. If you’re along my...

Some thoughts on little white lies

Cross-posted from my blog It’s probably no surprise to anyone who’s read my writings for any length of time that I’m not a fan of dishonesty in relationships–of any sort, big or small. I have always championed the cause of open, honest...