by Franklin | Apr 2, 2015 | The Authors, The Book
Many years ago, my game-changing partner (whom I call Amber in The Game Changer) talked to a therapist about why she felt lonely and isolated. Her therapist told her there was nothing wrong with her: she felt alienated from others because she was a giraffe surrounded...
by Franklin | Mar 31, 2015 | Ethics, The Authors
Finally, after incredible struggle, the manuscript for my memoir The Game Changer is finished and in copyediting. You can preorder it now on Amazon. Writing this book has been one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. I’ve been thinking of it as The...
by Franklin | Feb 11, 2015 | Polyamory
Update: If you are looking for help with an abusive situation, please see this list of resources. Eve and I have been writing quite a lot about abuse in polyamorous relationships here lately. We’re even doing a workshop on it at Poly Living in Philadelphia next...
by Franklin | Feb 7, 2015 | Ethics
The book More Than Two talks several times about compassion. The word appears 100 times in the book. Compassion, we say, is a necessary part of a successful relationship. On another forum, someone recently asked, “So what is compassion?” And it occurred to...
by Franklin | Jan 17, 2015 | Ethics, Polyamory, The Authors
I am blessed today with a life that is extraordinarily filled with love and connection. I find it easy to connect with people and to find love, warmth, and intimacy, and that has let me create a rich, joyful personal life in which I feel cherished and supported. In...
by Franklin | Jan 12, 2015 | Polyamory, Reader Feedback, The Authors
I’m typing this blog post in front of a huge picture window overlooking a temperate rainforest in rural Washington state, which means I’m back at the cabin where Eve Rickert and I wrote our polyamory book More Than Two. The cabin kitty, Whiskers, has been...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Relationship Ideas
Some time ago, I wrote about dating black belts. I prefer to date people who have already demonstrated the skills required to treat others well in a relationship–that is, people who are black belts at relationships. It’s a common misconception among folks...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Relationship Ideas
There is a concept in sex-positive circles of “sex negativity.” Sex negativity is the notion that sex is intrinsically bad, dangerous, dirty, or wrong, unless it occurs within certain tightly prescribed conditions (for example, in marriage for...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Polyamory
There’s a common theme to the problem-solving approach we see in many poly relationships: bringing things down to the same level instead of building things up to the same level. For example, when a new relationship starts, it often comes bundled with a lot of crazy...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Ethics, Polyamory
Way back in 2003, I proposed a “secondary’s bill of rights” for polyamorous relationships. This Bill of Rights, much of which was written by my partner Shelly, came out of our attempts to navigate the hierarchical relationship I was in at the time...
