Image: Chris Liepelt As 2025 draws to a close, the twenty-eighth anniversary of my first online writings on polyamory draw near. 28 years years. Nearly thirty years of recording my musings, thoughts, and natterings about this way of living that flies in the face of traditional ideas about relationships. What Read more
This blog post is part of a series on the new, vastly expanded More Than Two site. This essay spotlights the Communication page. Look for more spotlights in the coming days and weeks! Image: ots-photo Another day in the wasteland that is the politically polarized hellscape of US politics. You know what this Read more
This blog post is part of a series on the new, vastly expanded More Than Two site. This essay spotlights the Women as People page. Look for more spotlights in the coming days and weeks! Image: Yay Images The new More Than Two site adds entire new wings to the information and Read more
Woohoo! I’ve been working for months on a complete overhaul of the More Than Two site, and at last it’s finally live! This is the biggest content revamp since I first started writing about polyamory on the Internet back in 1997. (Good Lord, has it really been that long?) Every Read more
Last time I visited my Talespinner, she said something really interesting, something that has stuck with me. I’d never heard it framed that way before, but the minute she said it, it clicked: not only what I am, but what all my lovers in all my best relationships have been. Read more
[Note: I originally wrote this essay as an answer on Quora.] We swim, every day, in an environment made up of a toxic stew of unhealthy relationship ideas, many gifted to us from an age when women were literal property, seen as unfit for anything besides baby factories for male Read more
Some years ago, I remember going out to dinner with a whole bunch of people I’d “met” on the Internet—I think on OK Cupid, if I recall correctly, which will tell you how long ago this was. One of my partners at the time, Shelly, accompanied me. She fancied one Read more
[Note: This essay originally started out as an answer on Quora.] Image: Brooke Campbell One of the enduring evergreen questions I hear time after time about polyamory is “how on earth do polyamorous people find the time and energy for multiple relationships?” And when I hear it, for a long Read more
A while back, a question floated through my Quora feed, about what to do if one‘’’s friends all object to one’s dating partner. It wasn’t a question about polyamory per se, but it did cut to the heart of something I’ve been struggling with for a very long time. I’ve Read more
I suck at cooking. I’ve always sucked at cooking. I never learned to cook growing up, then at 19 I started a relationship with a woman for whom cooking was her love language, her way of feeling needed, and her sense of identity all rolled into one, so I was Read more