by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Relationship Ideas
Some time ago, I wrote about dating black belts. I prefer to date people who have already demonstrated the skills required to treat others well in a relationship–that is, people who are black belts at relationships. It’s a common misconception among folks...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Ethics, Polyamory
Way back in 2003, I proposed a “secondary’s bill of rights” for polyamorous relationships. This Bill of Rights, much of which was written by my partner Shelly, came out of our attempts to navigate the hierarchical relationship I was in at the time...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Ethics, Relationship Ideas
A couple of months ago, I was presenting at a poly event. We were talking about consent, and someone used a phrase I’d never heard before, but which the linguist in me (who’s basically an eight-year-old squeeing over the neat things people do with...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Relationship Ideas
I have said many times that one of the core secrets to good relationships is good partner selection. A huge number of relationship problems can be avoided up front simply by choosing good partners: partners with compatible ideas about relationships, with good...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Polyamory
In our book More Than Two, one of the dangers with existing couples opening their relationship to polyamory is the problem of “couple privilege.” “Couple privilege” is a set of assumptions and expectations, some external and some internal, that...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Ethics
A little while ago, someone asked me the question “How can I be the best version of myself? What skills and attitudes does it take?” So I thought about it. During the times I feel I’ve reached for the best version of me, what qualities have I strived...
