by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Relationship Ideas
Some time ago, I wrote about dating black belts. I prefer to date people who have already demonstrated the skills required to treat others well in a relationship–that is, people who are black belts at relationships. It’s a common misconception among folks...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Relationship Ideas
There is a concept in sex-positive circles of “sex negativity.” Sex negativity is the notion that sex is intrinsically bad, dangerous, dirty, or wrong, unless it occurs within certain tightly prescribed conditions (for example, in marriage for...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Ethics, Relationship Ideas
A couple of months ago, I was presenting at a poly event. We were talking about consent, and someone used a phrase I’d never heard before, but which the linguist in me (who’s basically an eight-year-old squeeing over the neat things people do with...
by Franklin | Dec 15, 2014 | Crowdfunding, Relationship Ideas
I have said many times that one of the core secrets to good relationships is good partner selection. A huge number of relationship problems can be avoided up front simply by choosing good partners: partners with compatible ideas about relationships, with good...
by Franklin | Aug 24, 2014 | Polyamory, Relationship Ideas
Some time ago, I wrote a blog post about the assumptions we make in our relationships, and how those assumptions can influence our relationship outcomes, for good or for ill. I’ve been meaning to revisit that idea for quite some time, specifically with an eye...
by Franklin | Aug 3, 2014 | Ethics, Relationship Ideas
Folks already familiar with my writings over the years won’t be shocked to hear me say I’m deeply skeptical of rule-based romantic relationships. It’s a theme throughout most of my writings on polyamory, and in the book More Than Two, Eve and I argue...
