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Want to find out more about polyamory? Links aimed at therapists and health-care professionals who want to learn more about polyamory are at the bottom of the list. You can find a list of polyamory books here.

Polyamory Weekly Headquarters for the Polyamory Weekly Podcast, a weekly talk show on all things poly. Includes listener call-ins and interviews with many people in the poly community.

Modern Poly The pulse of the polyamory movement: Essays, articles, and interviews about polyamory. A great resource site.

Poly in the Media This blog tracks references to polyamory and articles about polyamory in news media.

Poly Means Many A group blogging site where many people write about polyamory, often on the topic of a monthly theme.

The Polyamorous Misanthrope Rants, raves and polyamorous edification for the whole family. An often-updated collection of essays on practical, no-nonsense, hands-on polyamory.

Loving More The only nationwide magazine dedicated to polyamory, Loving More also hosts conferences and poly retreats throughout the country.

Multiple Match Open relationship blog and community dating resource for ethical, consensual non-monogamy or polyamory.

Poly Skeptic Polyamory from a skeptical, non-spiritual stance. They also have a companion podcast.

Polyamory for the Practical Large and frequently updated site maintained by the members of a long-term poly family. Includes a poly Web comic and RSS feeds. Note: Still available but no longer updated.

Unitarian Universalists for Poly Awareness A Web site an organization for Unitarian Universalists interested in polyamory; the UUPA also runs an email list.

My Poly Place A Facebook for poly folks. Want to know how to meet polyamorous people? Look here!

Solo Poly A blog by a single polyamorous person covering “Life, relationships, and dating as a free agent”

polyinfo.org Curated list of poly links and resources

Alan’s List of Polyamory Events Compiled by the same person who does Polyamory in the Media, this is an often-updated list of polyamory-related conferences, workshops, and events going on all over the globe.

The Inn Between: Polyamory Pages Essays, safe-sex articles, advice on “coming out” poly, and other resources for polyamorous people, written by a partner of mine.

Poly Group Registry A user-updated list of local polyamory social and support groups throughout the the world. If you’re looking for a local poly group, this is a good place to start!

Poly Events All Over A user-updated list of polyamory-related conventions and events worldwide.

Love Is Infinite Frank, open, personal blog about polyamory and poly-related experiences from the inside.

Polyamory on Purpose Practical, hands-on blog of poly-related information, such as polyamory and plural living, polyamory and the law, and polyamory and children.

Dear Polly Amorie Blog of a poly woman in Canada, covering everything from advice to legal matters affecting Canadian polyamorists.

PolyTampa Web site for the Tampa, Florida-based poly group.

Cascadia Polyamory Web site for poly activities and groups in the Pacific Northwest.

Polyamorous Percolations An extensive “portal site” containing articles, links, a poly message board, forums, and so on.

The Ordinary Extraordinary A Weblog and journal of a polyamorous couple and their lives.

Polyamory Chat Web-based chatroom for polyamory discussion.

poly southeast A Web site designed to foster increased communication, networking, and support between polyamorous folks in the southeastern US.

Polyamory Society News, information, discussion, and resources, particularly for people who aren’t necessarily poly but know people who are.

Polyamory.com Forums  A large, international online forum for people interested in polyamory.

PolyMatchMaker A poly-focused dating and forum site.

PolyCamp Site for PolyCamp NW, a large annual poly get-together.

Creating a Line-Family A site with information for folks interested in multigenerational line families.

Polytical UK-based polyamory activist and organization site.

Links of interest to therapists and other professionals

How to educate your therapist about polyamory Guidelines for talking to a counsellor or therapist about poly-related issues.

What psychology professionals should know about polyamory PDF file put together by the NCSF to educate psychology professionals about polyamory.

Therapy with clients who are bisexual and polyamorous Written for therapists, this page discusses therapy in a bisexual and poly context.

Legitimizing alternative sexualities in psychology A short overview of the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) and its role in helping therapists deal with non-traditional relationships.

Working with polyamorous clients in the clinical setting Article published in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality about therapy involving clients who are in ethical non-monogamous relationships.

And while we’re at it, some books on the subject.

More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve RickertThe long-awaited book cowritten by the author of this site and his partner Eve Rickert. This book takes all the experience we have had in poly relationships and turns it into a practical, down-to-earth guidebook offering useful information on everything from ethics to poly relationship forms to sexual health.

We are incredibly proud of this book and think it’s one of the best practical resources on polyamory out there.


 

Sex At Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda JethaThis is not, strictly speaking, a book about polyamory. Instead, it’s a wildly entertaining, meticulously researched tretise on the origins of human sexuality and the things that make us relate the way we do. The authors challenge the assumptions of monogamy as a norm for human relationships, in a provocative and fun-to-read way.
Open All the Way: Confessions From My Open Marriage by Sadie Smythe (Kindle only)Sadie Smythe is a well-known blogger who writes openly, frankly, and compellingly about her experiences in opening her long-term marriage. In this book, she documents the ups and downs, the lessons, th pitfalls, and the happiness of her own journey from monogamy to non-monogamy. This entertaining book is good reading for anyone seeking to open their own marriage.
Love in Abundance: A Counselor’s Advice on Open Relationships by Kathy LabriolaWritten by a professional relationship counselor, this book focuses on strategies for communication, negotiation, partner selection, and conflict resolution in polyamorous relationships. Written for people in non-monogamous relationships, but also likely to be useful to other counselors and therapists who want to learn more about non-monogamy.
Love Unlimited: The Joys and Challenges of Open Relationships by Leonie LinssenThis book is an overview of several different kinds of non-monogamous relationships, put together from interviews with 12 different non-monogamous families. Each section contains ideas, relationship agreements, and tools that these families developed on the way to building their relationships.
The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: A Hands-on Guide to Open Sexual Relationships by Françoise SimpèreAnother personal narrative, this book describes the author’s process to coming to her own polyamorous arrangement, and talks about the rules and ideas that keep her relationships healthy and happy. It’s written from a very specific perspective (long-term couples who want lovers on the side), and as such describes only one particular kind of polyamory. It offers practical suggestions and how-tos for couples looking to arrange non-monogamous relationships.
The Polyamory Handbook: A User’s Guide by Peter BensenThis book is intended as a pragmatic approach to polyamory, covering topics like communication, emotional growth, sexual health, raising a poly family with children, and legal issues such as wills. Written mostly from a perspective of an established couple adding partners.
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan TaorminoPart anecdote, part interviews with poly couples, part advice, this wonderful book is an outstanding answer to the question “So how do you make non-monogamy work, anyway?” Through interviews with folks practicing a wide variety of different forms of non-monogamy, this book covers several styles of polyamory, swinging, and even polyamory for single people. There’s a companion blog as well.
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine Lizst Considered by many people to be one of the definitive guides to “responsible non-monogamy.” While it does not really discuss polyamory per se, but rather polysexuality–the practice of multiple sexual partners in an ethical framework–this book is a good read for anyone interested in polyamory. Published by Greenery Press.
Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny BlockThis book is a personal narrative of one “average girl next door” who just so happens to be in an open relationship. The book covers the ins and outs of her own relationship, the lessons she’s learned along the way, and examines why it’s still more socially acceptable to cheat than to be polyamorous.
Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony RavenscroftWritten with humor, wit, and style by a person with twenty years’ experience in polyamorous relationships, this book is a guidebook to the benefits, pitfalls, mistakes, and rewards of a poly life. Covers many of the mistakes the author has made without flinching, and lays out a roadmap for successful polyamorous relationships.
The Sex And Love Handbook: Polyamory! Bisexuality! Swingers! Spirituality! & Even Monogamy! A Practical Optimistic Relationship Guide by Kris A. Heinlein and Rozz M. Heinlein This book, an overview of many relationship styles and sexual practices, explores the emotions, philosophies, risks, and rewards of non-traditional sexual and romantic relationships. Written in an optimistic, enthusiastic style, it presents a wide range of relationship models engagingly and honestly.
Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik This book explores the realities of day-in, day-out non-monogamy, particularly as a conscious political and social act. It’s direct, in your face, and offers excellent insight on managing problems like jealousy.
The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infedelity in Animals and People by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton Written by a husband and wife team of behavioral scientists, this book explores non-monogamy from a behavioral, genetic, and moral standpoint. The book is not hostile to monogamy, but it makes the statement that in humans, a relationship model is a matter of both biology and choice, and that monogamy is not more inherently “natural” than non-monogamy.
Polyamory in the 21st Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners by Deborah Anapol A follow-up to Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits (listed below), this book is a retrospective on Dr. Anapol’s life as a poly activist. While it has some sections that are likely to be useful to newcomers, this isn’t really a book aimed at those new to poly; instead, it’s a collection of Dr. Anapol’s personal experiences in polyamorous relationships.
The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Rev.Ronald M. Mazur This book advertises itself as “for non-traditionalists, those ready for new life and love affirmations.” The Rev. Dr. Ron Mazur has been an ordained minister, a university health educator, a clinical sexologist in private practice, and a pioneer in computer on-line networks.
The Lesbian Polyamory Reader by Marcia Munson and Judith P. Stelboum (Editors) A collection of stories, poetry, and essays on non-monogamous lesbian relationships, together with descriptions of solid frameworks for ethical non-monogamy.
Monogamy by Adam Phillips Written by a psychologist, this book examines the traditional concept of marriage in a society where divorce is altogether common.
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol This book focuses more on polyfidelity than on other kinds of polyamory, with a heavy emphasis on New Age spirituality, and is often recommended by those who combine polyamory and spirituality.
The Seven Natural Laws of Love by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol This book draws from thousands of interviews to try to create a set of rules which govern all loving relationships regardless of their form.
Lesbian Polyfidelity: A Pleasure Guide for all Women Whose Hearts are Open to Multiple Sexual Loves by Celeste West Recommended by an online visitor; I don’t know much about this book personally, but it’s received excellent reviews.