Ethical agreements

Polyamorous relationships come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes, with all sorts of configurations, arrangements and agreements. From closed triads to sprawling networks, from tightly nested live-in relationships to aggregations of long-distance relationships, from fleeting to long-lived, from consensual power exchange to egalitarian, I’ve seen polyamorous groupings with just about every structure possible.

Given that variety, it’s clear there’s no one right way to “do” polyamory. But that doesn’t mean all polyamorous relationships are happy or sustainable!

Backer question: What happens when poly relationships end?

One of the rewards for the More Than Two crowdfunding campaign is that, at $500 and above, we’ll answer a question on the blog (or write a post on the topic of your choice). This post presents our first backer question–and naturally it’s a doozy, with no easy answers. It also happens to be a topic we’re planning to cover in much more depth in the book.

Why polyamory isn’t more evolved

If you venture into the organized polyamory community for long enough, or even talk to people about polyamory online for long enough, eventually you’re bound to encounter someone who describes polyamory as the Next Stage In Human Evolution…assuming you don’t first encounter someone who says that poly is fine in theory, but human beings simply aren’t evolved enough to make it work.