Note: This blog post has been translated into Italian! The Italian version is here. You can also read Shelly’s other guest post here.

This is a guest post by my sweetie Shelly. She sent it to us as an essay a few weeks ago, and it blew us away so much we asked her if we could reprint it. We’ll be drawing on these ideas in the book, possibly even using parts of the essay. – Franklin

Consent is a radical idea

I would like for this to be the shortest discussion ever. I would like to say that we each have an inalienable right to have domain over our bodies, minds, and choices and end the conversation there. I mean, good people don’t violate consent, and I’m a good person, right?

Well, it’s not really so simple. If there’s one common thread through human history, it’s that we are, collectively, really comfortable violating consent. As children, we are often violated physically, emotionally, legally. As much as we are told that we always have choice, we often find that the choice is between homelessness and an abusive working environment or an abusive living situation. As much as we seem to have finally reached some kind of consensus that rape is wrong, we still seem to be having a cultural dialogue about the kinds of circumstances under which it might actually be deserved.

We may encounter many situations in our lives where we have to put walls up and just absorb the loss of control over our lives, our minds, or our bodies. But the one place where we should never have to do that is in our loving relationships. This may on the surface, seem obvious, but make no mistake–this is a radical idea.

Axiom #1

The people in the relationship are more important than the relationship.

Consent is about me

There’s a lot of fuzzy usage around the word consent. I would like to propose a tightening of the definition, because if we are not clear about what consent is, we cannot possibly succeed in communicating about it.

Consent is about me: my body, my mind, and my choices. My consent is required to access the things that I own. You do not need my consent to act, because I do not own your body, your mind, or your choices. However, if your behavior crosses into my personal space, then you need my consent.

If my romantic partner goes out and sleeps with a dozen random hookups, he may have broken an agreement, but he has not violated my consent. If he then has sex with me without telling me about his actions, he has violated my consent because he has deprived me of the ability to make an informed choice.

You cannot understand consent without understanding boundaries

My boundaries are the edges of me. What is my personal space? What is it that I alone own, and you must always have permission to access?

This is somewhat personal, and we often don’t know where our boundaries are until they have been crossed. But I think you can roughly divide personal boundaries into three categories: My body, my mind, and my choices.

Axiom #2

Poor personal boundaries are damaging to the self.

My body

We all have an intuition about where our physical boundaries are. Our boundaries may start at our skin, or the point where we can feel breath. They may begin on the other side of the room. It is the point where we feel touched and physically affected by another person. When we share physical space with others, which we often do in community spaces, we may need to sometimes choose not to share that space depending on where our boundaries need to be at the time. You have the right to decide if, how, and when you want to be touched. Always.

In romantic relationships we often negotiate shared physical space. If touch begins beyond our skin, we may need to negotiate some space that we can control. For some people, this may be a room of one’s own. For some, it might be as simple as asking for some quiet time on the couch. However, without individual space, or the ability to negotiate for individual space when you need it, the only option for exerting a physical boundary may be to leave the shared space.

My mind

This is your mental and emotional experience of the world, your memories, your reality, and your values. When we engage the world, we let people into this personal space. Finding the edges of your mind is trickier than finding your physical edges. We are social creatures, and even the most superficial interactions engage our mental and emotional boundaries. The boundaries of the mind are, on the one hand, the easiest for others to cross over into, and also the boundaries we have the most control over.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can make me think I deserve it” 

It’s easy to say “don’t give people so much power to hurt you,” but that does not address our need for connection and acceptance. It does not account for the very healthy impulse to seek feedback on our perceptions of the world. I believe that the healthiest person, when persistently rejected, will witness either an erosion of their mental boundaries or an erosion of their ability to engage in intimacy. I also believe that the only way to maintain good mental boundaries, to counteract social rejection, and to assess when to disengage, is to have strong self-knowledge and self-confidence, and to engage in self-compassion and care. In other words, to engage in behaviors that build your self-esteem.

Axiom #3

Solid mental boundaries require self-esteem.

When we engage in intimate relationships, we let people into our minds. We open up our mental boundaries. We let a chosen few affect us, deeply. This is beautiful and amazing, and in my opinion, is one of the things that makes life worth living. But your mind belongs to you and you only. Your intimate partners, your family, your boss and the woman at the grocery store only ever get it on loan, and if that intimacy is damaging you, you have the right to take it back. Always.

Setting mental boundaries is different than setting physical boundaries. When I set a physical boundary, I am exerting some control over what you do with your body as it pertains to my space. Do not touch me there, do not move closer to me, leave my home. But with emotional boundaries, we have to take care to not make others responsible for our mental state. When we tell another person “do not say or do things that upset me,” we are not setting boundaries, we are trying to manage people whom we have let too far into ours. This management, and the high stakes of being responsible for another’s psychological well being, quickly introduce coercion into a relationship, and coercion erodes consent. Should we make requests of others to maximize our emotional health? Yes! Should we try to honor those requests if we can do so in a healthy way? Yes! Are you responsible for my wellbeing and what I feel? No.

My choices

At every fork in the road, each of us will bring our own values and experience to an examination of the information available. How we approach this process, and the conclusions we come to, is a large part of what makes us who we are.

I am a collection of experiences, memories, preferences, and feelings. I am one of billions of unique ways to process reality. But I am also the sum of my choices. My choices are the place where I stop dreaming and start pursuing, where I stop planning and start building. Choice, in my opinion, is where human beings become truly beautiful, and sometimes truly terrible.

Choice can be the most difficult personal boundary to defend. It seems like the predominant belief is that if we are empowered to make our own choices, we will all become monsters, and we must entrust our decisions to external authority. This permeates our society and seems to inform the way we build relationships. Without engaging in a debate about whether people are fundamentally good or bad (or option C), I ask you to look at your partner and ask yourself if you respect their ability to choose, even if it hurts you, and even if it’s not what you would choose.

Axiom #4

You cannot consent if you do not have a choice.

When we enter into a romantic relationship, we make a choice. Over time, we build a life. This may involve legal and financial commitments and responsibilities. When we make those commitments, we should do what we reasonably can to follow through. But there is a difference between life-building and intimacy. Consent is about intimacy, and in every moment of every day, we should feel that we have a choice in the intimacy we participate in.

Consent exists in the moment 

You cannot pre-consent. You can state intentions. You can make commitments that don’t involve your personal boundaries. But consent exists right now, right here in this moment. Let’s say I tell my partner “I want to have sex in five minutes. If you want to, I will definitely 100% want to have sex with you. I guarantee you that it is absolutely 100% ok. I commit to it. Here is a notarized piece of paper with my signature.” And then let’s say in five minutes, I say “no.” If my partner has sex with me anyways, it’s rape. (If you engage in consensual non-consent, you will recognize that you still have to negotiate a safe word or a way to recognize when consent has been revoked. If you don’t, you’ve crossed into abuse.)

Axiom #5

Previous consent for intimacy never, ever overrides withdrawal of consent in the present.

I’ve given a pretty extreme example, but one that hopefully everyone will agree with. However, we often make all kinds of agreements to future intimacy and then proceed like those agreements override our boundaries in the moment.

Coercion erodes choice

Being in a consensual romantic relationship means you are never committed to any future intimacy. In a consensual romantic relationship, you always choose the intimacy you engage in. Intimacy is anything that enters into your personal boundaries. It can be sleeping together, sex, hugging and kissing, emotional sharing, living together, having certain shared experiences, or making shared choices.

Again, you can state intentions, but you cannot pre-consent, and both people must recognize and respect personal boundaries right now, regardless of intentions stated in the past. The reason this is so important is that when there is an implied obligation, the relationship can easily become coercive.

It is actually really difficult to avoid coercion in romantic relationships, because boundaries are most likely to be set during the times when intimacy is already in trouble and there’s a lot to lose. When relationships are good, they make us better, they make our lives bigger, and it’s easy to forget about our boundaries, because there is no reason to enforce them. When communication erodes, when trust comes into question, when we feel out of control or deeply unhappy, and then one or both people try to set a boundary, it can be terrifying.

What does coercion look like?

Coercion is when you make the consequences to saying “no” to intimacy so great that it removes any reasonable choice. There is more obvious coercion, such as threats, either externally or internally directed. But I find that coercion just sort of organically arises when you believe that your partner, in that moment, owes you intimacy. If you think your partner owes you intimacy, and you are just “expressing your feelings,” there’s a good chance you’re being coercive. If your partner says “no,” and you start preparing for a fight instead of accepting their choice, you’re probably going to be coercive.

If your partner is trying to set an intimacy boundary, they probably have a very good reason. It might not even be about you. The chances that your partner has had their consent violated in their life are really high, and it may have been really bad. Show appreciation for your partner’s self-advocacy and self-knowledge, be grateful for the intimacy they have shown you, and make it clear that you respect their autonomy and ability to make choices, even if you don’t understand what’s happening or why.

It’s also possible they are being manipulative and using boundary-setting as a way to coerce you. Withdrawal and silence are classic techniques of emotional blackmail and can be initially difficult to distinguish from healthy boundary-setting. It’s even possible they are setting boundaries just to punish you.

But you know what? It doesn’t matter. The solution is never to try to force someone to do something they don’t want to do. Thank them, and respect their choice. If you can’t respect their choice, it’s time to examine your own boundaries.

Why you shouldn’t lie

I’m going to take a little bit of a detour here to talk about the intersection between mental/emotional privacy, choice, and consent. When you enter a romantic relationship, I believe there is one kind of intimacy that you must participate in, and if you find that you can no longer participate in it, you have a responsibility to end the relationship. I’m referring to honest, open communication.

Being able to share, to the best of your ability, who you are in a relationship, is critical for that relationship to be consensual. You must give your partner the opportunity to make an informed decision to be in that relationship. If you lie to your partner or withhold critical information, you remove their ability to consent to be in the relationship. The important information that needs to be shared should be negotiated early and is unique to each relationship.

Most important is to communicate those things that might be deal-breakers, or might be threatening to your partner’s emotional or physical health. Your partner deserves to have the ability to make a choice about how they want to participate in the relationship given the new information. Examples might be sexual behavior with others, drug use, the acquisition or use of weapons, violent impulses or behavior, or depression or suicide attempts.

You can force someone to make a certain choice, or coerce them into that choice, but if you lie or withhold information from a partner, you deny them even the ability to know there was a choice to be made.

Fear, the telltale sign

Why am I so afraid in this relationship when there’s no imminent physical danger?

If you find yourself asking yourself this question, check your boundaries. Do you know where they are? How much power have you given to others to affect your well-being, your self esteem, even your desire to live? Remember, when you give someone the power to affect you and to come into your mind, you are only loaning what belongs to you. If you are afraid, you have given too much. When you look forward, do you see choices? Is leaving the relationship a viable option? Is changing the relationship a viable option? Is setting boundaries a viable option? What happens when I say “no”?

You see plenty of relationships fall apart in sadness, anger, hurt, and feelings of betrayal. It is unnerving when a relationship becomes permeated by fear, but I believe this is often the trajectory of a relationship that lacks consent. It’s from here that we begin to bend ourselves around our fears instead of embracing our dreams.

Axiom #1

The people in the relationship are more important than the relationship.

If there is one safe place in the world, it should be with the people you love. I’m not talking about the safety of guarantees, but the safety to be everything that you are. It’s the safety to be dynamic, to change, and to dream. But to be safe, we have to be whole.


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Louisa Leontiades · October 28, 2013 at 10:36 pm

Amazing post and really timely. As emotional reaction in children is misunderstood and invalidated by parents so we learn to suppress our gut instincts – that which tells us ‘hey I’m really not happy with this’ but I said it was okay, so I must be wrong. Self esteem. Self esteem. Self-esteem!

Marcus · October 28, 2013 at 11:25 pm

Very powerfully right! Have shared to all my circles. Thanks! 🙂

Jan · October 29, 2013 at 7:09 am

Brilliant writing, painful to read. I have a whole lot of self-examination to do and am in the midst of doing… things from my past going horribly wrong because I ended up coerced, consenting to nothing and wondering how it happened. I’ll be printing this and reading it 100 times before I’m through. Thank you for spelling out that unless specific permissions were asked and granted, the issue of consent wasn’t addressed. Particularly when consent is inferred… that somehow that beer you agreed to with a colleague turned into molestation… Will be forwarding this to a gazillion friends. Thank you Shelly and Franklin. I am in your debt, yet again.

Ewen McNeill · October 29, 2013 at 12:02 pm

That is by far the clearest, most well laid out, piece written about consent that I have ever read — and believe me I’ve read and sought out a lot of discussion about consent. I found myself sharing it with people who really needed to know even before I’d finished reading it, because I couldn’t wait until I got to the end to share.

The only thing I’d add is that the phrase “Thank you for taking care of yourself” can be valuable as a response when someone’s consent that existed in the previous moment is withdrawn in the present moment (or really any time you ask for something and the answer is “no” — but it’s particular valuable when consent “suddenly” changes).

It’s both a valuable reminder of their right to choose in that moment, and a valuable few seconds to get past the initial emotional rush of “what did I do, why have they suddenly withdrawn their consent” — maybe you didn’t do anything different (or ask for anything “unreasonable”), maybe something changed for them, maybe they were triggered by a past experience.


    Chelsea · December 3, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    Thanks Ewan, for the idea of saying “Thank you for taking care of yourself” when someone states a boundary with you. Having specific things to say or try can be really useful in going from contemplation of something to putting ideas into practice. And thank you Shelly, for your clarity. I was in the midst of writing a letter to a person I love, and I alternated between reading this and writing the letter, and found the ideas presented helped me formulate my thoughts in regards to our current challenges.

GoTeamNewbie · October 30, 2013 at 8:56 am

This absolutely needed to be written, and kudos to Shelly for doing it so well. These ideas are revolutionary and should change how we think of consent and boundary setting in all our relationships.

She’s right – you can’t understand and give consent without understanding boundaries. Great discussion of the distinction between physical and mental/emotional boundaries as well. Problems with mental/emotional boundaries often go unidentified or dismissed because people don’t understand the nuances of coercion and emotional blackmail, which many blindly deem normal and/or acceptable behavior. This piece formidably deals with coercion and emotional blackmail in terms of choice and consent. Brilliant!

I think this take on consent is quite ground-breaking. The ideas discussed here can help all of us set better boundaries and create truly healthy and intimate relationships in a way that most people have never thought of. Everyone should read this!


Diana · November 4, 2013 at 2:48 pm

This: “When we tell another person “do not say or do things that upset me,” we are not setting boundaries, we are trying to manage people whom we have let too far into ours.”

1000x this.

quinkygirl · November 18, 2013 at 12:32 pm

Consent is sexy. I disclose my HSV-2 status before the first date, even though I know that because of fear, stigma, and misinformation out there on my virus, I will more often than not be rejected as being too risky to love and fuck. This is sometimes hard to deal with, but ultimately, those people who have educated themselves about the “risks” of being with a herpes positive woman make better lovers anyway. And I would never, ever let myself get carried away and not disclose my status.

Disclosing mental health issues is harder, because most especially if the person doing the disclosing is untreated or inadequately treated, they can be dismissive of the real impact of the illness on their life. This happened to me once. I got very invested in someone with untreated bipolar and then discovered just how bad things got for him during a major depressive episode. He attacked me (not physically) but emotionally and then cut me out of his life. He isn’t able to see to truth of his situation, though, and so honest disclosure may not be entirely in his control.

My current wonderful boyfriend of 2 years has very well managed bipolar — no issues at all!

Scot Conway · January 4, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Consent, agreements, “deals,” etc. can get tricky. Whether consent may be presumed unless specifically withdrawn or if nonconsent must be presumed unless specifically given, what constitutes consent and nonconsent, how obvious the giving or denial must be for the other person to know what’s really going on, at what place do we call it “rape” or a “violation” of someone, had such fuzzy, fuzzy lines in the gray zone in the middle.

What thoroughly enjoyed by one person might be a violation to another. For instance, one woman loved being woken by her lover inside her. To other women, they might find it appealing in the least. On the principle of consent, in that moment, it cannot be given, but the previously existing intention was expressed and presumed consent existed, but it could be withdrawn at any time for any reason or no reason.

What about having sex with a drunk woman who clearly is not fully aware? Is that rape? Most, I think, would be inclined to say yes, even if in her drunken state her behavior or even words might have indicated a slurred consent. What about a woman having sex with a drunk man who clearly is not fully aware? Same thing? Is she guilty of raping him if he was not sober enough to give informed consent? What if both of them are drunk beyond clear thinking and neither are making good decisions? Are they both guilty?

Basically, it can be a mess. Thus, it’s best to just have actual conversations and make this a topic to be discussed. This article is a great conversation starter. Talk about it!

Paulette · January 5, 2014 at 9:54 pm

Thanks for a though exploration of consent.

Edouard · January 19, 2014 at 4:51 am

I am going to play devil’s advocate here:

“Being able to share, to the best of your ability, who you are in a relationship, is critical for that relationship to be consensual. You must give your partner the opportunity to make an informed decision to be in that relationship. If you lie to your partner or withhold critical information, you remove their ability to consent to be in the relationship. The important information that needs to be shared should be negotiated early and is unique to each relationship.”

Well, what about seduction? Wouldn’t it be some kind of a coercion then? Once the seduction is over, yes, it would be time to open on the negative, before the relationship becomes too serious. However, if one starts being “too Honest” in regards of the situation (i.e. first contacts), he or she might well scare the potential partner away. Yes it is coercion because by seducing you might actually be lying by omission, but if you don’t you might deprive yourself and the potential partner of some very happy times… It’s a little of a paradox: some coercion seems necessary for the partner to be able to make that informed decision (The good and also the Bad, the latter being presented afterwards to not make the good invisible). We are humans not machines, and this needs to be taken into account when considering what coercion really is..

    ConsentIsNotOptional · October 1, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I think you are confusing coercion with convincing. The line between them is fuzzy, but once you step away from that line the difference is pretty plain. There is a very clear contrast between, “You should have sex with me because I can do xyz awesome things, which is pretty sexy amirite?” and, “You should have sex with me or I *will* do xyz things, whether you like it or not.” When it comes to being honest up front,that’s not optional. If you fail to disclose your STI or relationship status before or during seduction, you are being coercive and deceptive and you are in the wrong.

      Gael · August 2, 2021 at 8:39 pm

      Hmm “You should have sex with me or I *will* do xyz things, whether you like it or not” is said inside the perpetrator’s head not aloud. They will often say and do the right things to build trust and then break it at a crucial moment to get what they want.

    Gael · August 2, 2021 at 8:33 pm

    I think that is an issue because seduction and courtship can hide bad intentions because the communication is often not direct. However people have had so many awful experiences with people relentlessly lying and manipulating, I think you are better off being direct and killing the mood and losing a person rather than trauma bonding to someone who doesn’t value you. Seduction is only one layer of an interaction – chemistry and it’s usually the most misleading layer. Some people will say and do anything literally to get an ego stroke, meet a goal or “win” and don’t care if it violates the other person’s boundaries at all. While we can lament it’s killed the mood, it doesn’t change the reality that you can’t rely on some people to have a moral compass and sometimes it’s a person you don’t expect because they put on a very good show.

Franklin Veaux · January 19, 2014 at 12:25 pm

I’m not sure I follow, Edouard. Are you saying you believe you have to be dishonest in order to be seductive?

    Sujan · November 29, 2016 at 11:53 am

    From my understanding Franklin, I think Edouard is questioning about the practicality of this concept..? What are the chances of finding a potential partner if you put on your issues on your very first date…especially considering the fact that we live in a very judgmental world including me? However, I agree with a previous comment regarding disclosing issues like relationship status, STI etc before the whole thing goes any further. By issues, I am talking about the past events or actions that might still haunt you, about your depression etc. I learnt that opening issues like these in an early phase of the relationship often creates some major trust issues on the partner. And when your partner is insecure about it, trust is very difficult to cultivate after that and often that leads you to justify each of your thought and action to ensure the trust is maintained.

    Looking forward for your reply Franklin!

Hmmm · June 9, 2016 at 8:22 pm

This was a beautifully written article which really made me think about the way I act and the way other people act towards me. I’m definitely going to share it.

Susan Will · July 26, 2017 at 12:47 pm

Thank you for providing vital missing puzzle pieces I’ve needed for reflection on failed relationships of all types. Recognizing, let alone respecting, my own boundaries is something that continues to be difficult for me. You’ve provided so many great (new to me) ways of looking at old issues that it feels like you’ve thrown a door open in my heart to hope! Can’t thank you enough.

Misha · August 6, 2017 at 7:29 am

Hi, I originally read this essay after listening to your interview with Sex Nerd Sandra, and have probably read it 10+ times since then. Thank you very much for posting this and for writing this. It has been deeply influential of my understanding of consent, my ability to navigate consent in relationships, my understanding of what a healthy relationship looks and feels like, and my development of personal boundaries. I think I can honestly say it has been one of the most influential and important pieces of writing that I have read in the last three years and I am very grateful that you have shared it.

ExacerbatedOutcast · July 10, 2018 at 12:00 am

This is the reason I will always hate humanity and society. “Indian giver” (A loaded term, I acknowledge) is what they called it when I was a kid. Fine. I’ll abide by the rules. I’ll abide by rejecting ever being around another human as long as I have a choice.

But if you folk want to get all “healthy” on people like me, and we fucking *AGREE* to leave you the fuck alone so you’re not “coerced”, don’t come and bash our ideas and hormone block us when we start building cyborgs to fulfill our needs in your stead! Either you let us own you like property, or you leave us be, go about your merry way, and let us build mechanical property! You can’t take away both!

IF you do, you might as well put a fucking bullet in my brain, I’ll be dead so I won’t care if you cheer and post news articles. Do whatever floats your boat. Oh wait – you can’t. You might be coercing someone… You’re the one who was to suffer living in this finicky fucked up world.

It’s a win fucking win.

Ausia · August 26, 2018 at 3:13 pm

Greetings, I have a question and can use some help with me relationship!
I have told my partner many times that I would like him to ask consent & check-in with me before touching & loving on me. This is because he is a very physical/affectionate being & very often he will try to show me love through touching when I’m not in a place to receive (usually because I’m busy with something else)

Recently I had to ask him again to please consent and at least to tune into my current activities & energy to check if it would be an appropriate time to touch or not.
His response at first was silence & then he actually scoffed at me. I then asked me to tell me what he was feeling & thinking and he told me that he feels like I’m trying to dictate & control his actions and expression of Love. I tried to explain that that is not my intention & that I just need to have my boundaries because this is creating stress & disconnection.
He couldn’t understand my perspective and he openly says that requiring/asking for him or anyone to ask you consent is controlling & manipulative.
Because this has happened so many times I am thinking I have to leave him, and I told him so.
His response to that is that he is not attached & that I should do whatever I need to feel safe .
I am very sad and shocked with his response & wonder if there is anyway this relationship could be saved? Even as just a friendship, I know I will always feel love for him & I wish I could help him see how his perspective is damaging and maybe even abusive?

Thanks for any advice & support ?

    Randy Focht · June 12, 2020 at 11:41 pm

    The question is, what is it that you love about this guy?
    Is it the sex, or is it his character? If you didn’t answer character, then it’s time to find a really decent person who truly loves you, not just for the sex.

Siri · February 3, 2019 at 3:31 pm

This is the most accurate, well written, and very knowledgeable article I’ve read on this subject. You’ve beautifully explained this keeping it to the point. Thank you and God bless you

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